How Bottle Feeding Affects Mothering Traditions

by Vicky York

Today there is often a generation gap when a mother sees her daughter struggling, often in tears, with breastfeeding and suggests she "just give the baby a bottle" though her daughter has been reading research about the benefits of breastfeeding rather than formula feeding.

As a postpartum doula I frequently witness firsthand this new turn of events for the grandmother/mother relationship. Frequently distant grandmothers without nursing experience are asked by daughters to stay home until their daughters have a handle on the breastfeeding situation. Some grandmothers are present but sit in a corner quietly listening to us talk, learning for the first time themselves how to handle nursing situations.

Too often tearful new moms are alone at home, sometimes self-conscious about their awkward first efforts at nursing. Some are feeling they aren't good mothers because they are having trouble and they perceive that instant success should come naturally, not realizing that the only way women have ever known how to nurse is by watching other females. Babies know instinctually how to suck and seek the nipple, but many details of the art of breastfeeding are learned from other mothers. It's one of the gifts mothers receive from the family elders, the keepers of the heritage.

But grandma has competition. No need for baby to depend on mothers milk. No reason why moms can't skip the learning curve hassles of breastfeeding when she's heard formula is just as good. Thank formula company's marketing tactics, and hospitals' willingness to support formula feeding by giving their patients gifts of free formula. This has produced at least a couple generations of bottle feeders, breaking the cycle of the continuous and precious handing down of breastfeeding knowledge from generation to generation. Some breast feeders think they can also bottle feed just to make sure baby's gets enough, not understanding that this interruption in the emptying of the breasts compromises future milk supply and for many it's extremely difficult to build up that supply later. Every grandma who's "been there, did that" knows this fact. This is not to mention nipple confusion and the irritation that cows milk protein creates in newly initiated intestines.

We are the only species that drinks the milk of another species. It took some fancy marketing and billions of dollars for formula makers to create the illusion that their artificial baby milk was the "next best thing to breastmilk". We have a situation in which bottle-feeding has become a more common sight than breastfeeding and mothers are actually self-conscious when publicly providing sustenance for their infants in the natural way. Little girls today expect dolls to come with bottles. Dads sometimes feel cheated if they can't give their baby a bottle. And Grandma's are cheated of their role as bringers of the art of breastfeeding.

Women of yesteryear didn't know why breastmilk was best; they simply nursed for the same reasons all mammals nurse their young and they learned from others. When a woman sits down and pulls her baby to her breast she carries on a tradition of many generations of mothers before her providing the perfect nourishment to ensure that her offspring survives. We have heard that natural childbirth is empowering; it teaches a woman that she can trust her body to grow a child within her and withstand the rigors of labor to bring that child into the world. Surely realizing her capability of supporting this new life with the milk of her blood and the warmth of her body is another form of empowerment. It may be the first time she imagines her mother feeding her in this way a generation prior. In this way emotional healing often occurs in strained mother/daughter relationships.

Where it was once enough that grandma demonstrated how to feed a baby, new moms are now confused by the contradicting advice of friends, books, and physicians who don't have faith in mothers, babies, or ancient history.

Husbands are stymied as to why their wives are struggling with something they thought came naturally. Fathers 50 years ago left it up to the womenfolk to teach each other while they went off to work, knowing their wives were learning from the pros.

But breastfeeding is making a comeback. Though free food, trinkets and trips given to hospitals and doctors by formula makers has been persuasive the trend is changing as protestors cite a shameful conflict of interest. It may take another couple of generations to repair the damage done and revert back to natural behavior in feeding by getting formula companies to step out from between mother and child and pediatricians to add breastfeeding to their training.

But as it stands now many of today's grandmothers don't have the knowledge or experience to help their daughters because they bottle-fed their own children during a time when it had become popular to give their own babies artificial baby's milk. In the 60's pediatricians, happy to have a calibrated method to see and chart how much babies were drinking, usually recommended either formula, basically a concoction of tropical oils, cows milk and a few vitamins and minerals required by the government. Now the World Health Organization recommends nursing for one year. More of today's mothers nurse than the last generation and with their help their daughters won't miss one of the most unforgettable and empowering experiences mothers enjoy.

Lactation consultants are very often necessary if a new mother is to get any help at all when her baby is placed in her arms for his first feedings. Doctors are usually untrained in lactation and depend on lactation consultants to advise them. Therefore lactation clinics are set up in or near most hospitals and mothers who go home with problems can bring the baby back in to get help, if they are able. Hospitals hire as few lactation consultants as they can get away with and those are often busy doing paperwork, arranging classes and even working on the labor and delivery floor. Many women never see a lactation consultant in the hospital and if they do it may be brief and they may only have time to send struggling mothers home with breastfeeding accessories, such as nipple shields and hope for the best. This situation is regrettable to lactation consultants as much as anyone as they have the training and the heart to do so much more.

Doctors are feeling pressure to come up with answers about a subject they know little about unless they are females who successfully nursed their own, and therefore too often resort to taking the more legally accountable route of recommending prescribed amounts of formula. Midwives need to be more informed than ever about breastfeeding if they want their clients to avoid suggestions of formula supplementation from all sides as soon as they encounter a potential problem.

Mothers in larger cities now often pay for postpartum doula services to fill a void in their own ability to solve specific challenges with the techniques of breastfeeding. While doulas and lactation consultants can save the day, this really should be a time when mother and daughter come together in a new relationship with one another, forming a bond through the "handing down of knowledge" from mother to mother.

While sitting next to a new mom explaining some of the amazing facts about breastmilk to keep her inspired, many a grandmother has leaned over my shoulder and expressed regret that she used formula by the influence of her pediatrician, formula company ads, the availability of free formula samples, and her peers. Older women today often confess feeling great regret at having "failed" at breastfeeding because they "just didn't make enough milk" or "the baby didn't like their milk" and so on. We now know that if their own mothers and their peers had breastfed they would have received information about early and frequent nursing, supply and demand, and the proper latch that pediatricians today don't have the time or training to teach mothers. It's grandma's place. Grandma's who had the will but not the help can feel psychological pain and sometimes embarrassment over missing out on this experience. And the ones who did successfully nurse all their children exclaim that fact with pure pride. Having to give up is no small thing and those mothers never forget it. With a little initial support they would have seen their babies not only thrive on their milk but love nursing to the point of outright rejecting formula. They could have bypassed bisphenol-A laden bottles with their latex nipples and pacifiers and probably gone straight from the breast to a cup, with guidance all the way by their own mamas. Guidance any grandmother who nursed can give to the great appreciation of an apprehensive daughter. Grandmothers also know that breastfeeding ensures that mothers stay close to their infants physically and emotionally and that this in itself takes care of so many issues.

Native Americans and other ethnic groups must particularly feel the sting of having modern American industrial society replace older customs and traditions. They're missing yet another route of handing down knowledge and skills from generation to generation that can keep them tied as a culture or a tribe. Where the natural inclination used to be to call grandma because of her nursing experience now parents go to the market for formulas, bottles, nipples, bottle-washing brushes and sterilizing accessories. And if they breastfeed, hiring help can be expensive.

At a time when some grandmothers may begin to feel that their worth in society and to the family is waning, their daughters and sons produce an opportunity for them to impart their knowledge, skills and experience in mothering and providing for babies. According to each culture grandmother knows which foods to feed her daughter, which herbal teas are best for breastfeeding initiation, how to ensure plenty of milk, etc. Valuable information and handed down wisdom that has no place in a bottle-feeding society. However-much mothers and daughters may differ in ideas about parenting a deeper bond is created between them, as a daughter trusts her mother's ideas and knowledge at a time when she feels vulnerable and unsure. After a few weeks of reassurance from mom there is a sense that all is well in the family when the new young mother feels pride in being the only one who can give her baby his birthright straight from her bosom. The largely unrecognized effect of aggressive marketing ploys of formula makers, and resultant prevalence of bottle-feeding is the loss of the natural family tradition of grandma being able to pass on her art of breastfeeding, truly mothering the mother as no one else could.

Vicky York, IBCLC, CPD is an independent lactation consultant and has worked with nearly 600 families in the Oregon as a postpartum doula. She has taught postpartum doula training workshops, newborn care classes, breastfeeding classes and grandma classes and is a published author of postpartum related articles. Vicky York, IBCLC, CPDPostpartum Care ServicesPortland, Oregon
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(Note: The World Health Organization suggests breastfeeding for 2 years.

"... infants should receive complementary foods with continued breastfeeding up to 2 years of age or beyond."
http://www.who.int/nutrition/topics/exclusive_breastfeeding/en/index.html

Also, there's available free breastfeeding help available through a woman's local La Leche League Group... www.llli.org

A to Z: 26 Reasons to Nurse Your Baby

From: www.llli.org

Amenorrhea
Bonding
Colostrum... the perfect first food
Decreased risk of breast cancer
Easy baby care
Few allergies
Good for the whole family
Human milk is specially designed for human babies
Immunities
Jaw development
Kids get lots of attention when the new baby is breastfed
Laundry is a breeze
Mental development
Natural
Oxytocin and prolactin
Protection against many diseases
Quick weight loss for mother
Rest
Saves money
Traveling is easy
Understanding the baby's needs
Vitamins and minerals
Working goes smoothly when the nursing relationship is maintained
eXactly what baby needs
You get to take care of your baby
Zero waste

Only the Best Is Good Enough - Breastfeed!

Cold War Remnant: Cancer for Baby Boomers

"Even with a half-century’s hindsight, the
U.S. government’s willingness to risk the
health of the nation’s children seems somewhere
between unfathomable and unconscionable.
Between 1951 and 1962, the Atomic Energy
Commission detonated more than 100
nuclear bombs in the atmosphere over its
Nevada Test Site, just 65 miles from Las
Vegas. The radioactive fallout menaced not
only the ranchers and the miners unlucky
enough to live in that remote area of southern
Nevada, but — as a new study unveiled
Tuesday demonstrated — untold millions
of unsuspecting Americans as well.

The winds carried Strontium-90, Iodine-
129 and other lethal particles across a
broad swath of the country. Infants who
were bottle-fed, which was then considered
the modern approach, were particularly
vulnerable to the Strontium-90 that ended
up in cows’ milk."

(Read more...)

Do Nursing Moms Need Protection?

Here's an interesting video from Cambell Brown, a working, breastfeeding mom who pumps...

http://www.cnn.com/video/?/video/bestoftv/2009/09/17/cb.breast.mom.cnn


(Just fyi... here's the original article about the Isotoner mom posted earlier... http://campbellbrown.blogs.cnn.com/2009/09/17/mom-breastfeeding-cost-me-my-job/#more-1486 )


Yes, we certainly need more laws and protection for pumping moms.

As a mom who pumped/worked for her baby, I think more opportunities should be made to help moms in similar situations... almost like "smoking breaks," or the like, for others. :O) More positive stories and solutions should also be distributed and possibly sought...

All in all, a good, open communication with an employer is probably one of the better things to keep in mind in these type situations. And, presenting a well-thought out, positive plan *ahead* of time which shows an employer how future pumping will *not* have a negative impact on job efficiency, etc., might be another idea.

But, do we pick our battles right now while the foundations are being laid down?

I pumped in a dirty, small storage room... this was the only availability at the time. I did pump in a counselor's office with a sign on the door politely asking to "please knock, I'm breastfeeding" but was still walked in on. Of course, the "intrusion" wasn't on purpose, but it was an uncomfortable situation, to say the least. O)

Anyhow, I did survive... I just closed my eyes and thought of my little girl (probably helping my let-down reflex, too!).If needed, the art of a well-written complaint letter might also be beneficial....

Lack of current information on breastfeeding is so prevalent these days.

Beyond the Nursery: Nursing with Confidence

www.breastfeeding.com/reading_room/behrmann.html

by Barbara L. Behrmann, Ph. D.

Niesha, a young mother in Arizona, was nursing her three week-old son in the baby department of a large discount store when the manager politely asked her to nurse in the bathroom because there were male customers who were their with their wives.

Amy, enjoying a lunch out with her mother, discreetly nursed her daughter under her shirt. The waiter avoided eye contact with her and asked her mother, instead of her, for her lunch order.

Patti, a modest woman in Washington, used to nurse in public bathrooms. She would put a lot of toilet seat covers on the seat and nurse on the toilet completely dressed. This kind of judgment, however, is not universal. Originally from Jamaica, Opal compared nursing in the US to her experiences overseas: "I remember going to Mexico when Shola was a baby and sitting on the side of the road, nursing. I didn't cover my breast and nobody said anything to me. Nor did anyone say anything to me in Jamaica and St. Croix."

In a culture that encourages us to show cleavage but god forbid, our nipples, we typically try to be as discrete as possible. Ironically this means that the less visible we become and the more we hide the early work of mothering, the more approval we earn. We sling blankets over our shoulders, purchase special nursing tops, turn our backs to others, and ultimately try to disguise what we are doing. These, of course, may be good personal solutions, but they don't help us change the culture.

The challenge we face is to nurse discreetly, but not invisibly. This way, we not only meet out babies' all-important needs, but we also help each other; that is, the more others see mothers nursing publicly, the easier it will be for the next nursing mom.

Increase Your Confidence

Chances are, nobody will give you a hard time about nursing in public. But just in case, here are a few things to remember to boot your confidence.

You may start out feeling awkward and insecure, but over time you are likely to develop confidence and become more assertive.

This is what happened with Stephanie. A first-time mother in Pennsylvania, she practiced nursing discreetly in front of mirrors and her husband. "I wanted to go places and do things but was so nervous that someone might get a glimpse of my bra as I opened it or god forbid, a flash of skin," she recalls. Her attitude changed after a few weeks and she became resentful and angry. "I never intended to fully disrobe in the mall but I hated the fact that I couldn't focus on my daughter's needs - I had to focus on whether somebody might be seeing more than they should." Stephanie became increasingly defiant and after a few months would actually seek out places "That might ruffle a few feathers."

The law is on your side! In fact over 20 states have enacted legislation to clarify that women have the right to nurse in public without being accused of indecent exposure, lewd behavior or obscenity. : So...if anyone suggests you move to the bathroom to nurse, simply ask them if they'd like to eat their meal in a toilet stall and share with them this link: Http://www.lalecheleague.org/LawMain.html

Don't feel pressured to feed your baby expressed milk in a bottle. Not only is a pump less effective than a baby at removing milk form the breast, but lactation works on the principle of supply and demand. In some cases, pumping, instead of nursing, can diminish your milk supply. Besides, if you baby is nursing for comfort - or any other "non-nutritional" reason, he or she doesn't want a bottle when your warm body is right there!

If you're nurslings past the baby-in-arms stage, he or she won't care if you're at home or in a shopping mall. You may want to nurse ahead of time and eventually you may be able to explain to your child that there are places where it's ok to nurse and places where you have to wait. But again, know that you have the legal right to breastfeed. And international health organizations recommend nursing a child for at least two years. So if someone gives you a hard time, gently inform them that nurslings suckle for reasons beyond the milk. It calms them, comforts them, and meets their emotional needs. Humor may help. You can be pretty sure that by the time your child starts college he or she will be off the breast. In short, there is no reason to feel embarrassed for meeting your child's nutritional and emotional needs.

Generally, the more comfortable you are, the less likely others will challenge you. Remember the words of Nina, a first-time mother in upstate New York. "I love nursing in public and I don't put a ton of effort into hiding it," she admits. "I'm not saying breastfeeding should be about shock value, but I feel strongly about nursing and am proud of it. I don't look down, I don't feel embarrassed, and I look people right in the eye."

Remember, be discreet, but not invisible, confident but not aggressive. Use a blanket as a cover up, if you like, but if your baby won't tolerate warm flannel over his head, who can blame him? Remember that nursing in public not only meets your baby's needs, but does a public service.